Dear friends,
Here is some dating advice from a girl who hasn’t given up, even when it’s discouraging at best:
1. When you go into a relationship,
go with eyes open, knowing what your non-negotiables are, and then stick with
them.
2. You will find the right person as
you become the right person, meaning you become the type of person you hope to
marry.
3. Taking breaks from dating is okay,
including taking breaks from someone you have been dating. Sometimes a break is
what you need to let you know the next step.
4. Breakups will break your world.
But life goes on, and the pain will fade over time. If you’re stuck on someone,
try to focus on the good things about them and what you learned about yourself
from dating them. Hate just heightens hurt.
5. When you’re ready, delete their
number and clear any reminders of them from your phone and personal space. This
allows you to prepare yourself emotionally to meet someone new.
6. Be willing to compromise. No, you
don’t have to agree on everything. Yes, you will need to compromise to meet
each other’s needs. But don’t compromise on what is most important to you,
especially morally speaking.
7. If it doesn’t work with someone,
it’s not a disaster. It’s that you weren’t the right fit for each other.
Hold on because you will find someone. Just be patient (hard, I know) and trust
in God’s plan and timing for you.
8. If at first you don’t succeed,
take a break and then try again. Praying for help is a great step in the right
direction.
9. When someone hurts you, cry. Cry
it all out. Then pick yourself up and work on steps toward healing. Avoid
rebounding but be willing to trust your heart to someone again.
10. No matter how much you love
someone, go slow and take the time to get to know them. Really get to know
them, in different seasons of life. The infatuation stage is fun, but
you need to see this person as they truly are and let yourself also be seen.
11. A lack of conflict in a
relationship is not a good thing. Conflict is inevitable and healthy;
contention is not. As you learn how to work through conflict together, you’ll
grow closer and your relationship will be stronger.
12. Meet their family and friends.
Become a part of their world and invite them into yours. Knowing who is
important to you says a lot about you, and showing interest in someone else’s
life is a green flag.
13. Show that you care in the way that
your significant other prioritizes, in whatever way they feel love best. If
they love physical touch, take a moment to hold them close. If they thrive on
words of affirmation, praise them and tell them how much you love them.
Regardless of what they need, be genuine. People can tell when you’re not. Even
small gestures with great love speak volumes.
14. Stay worthy. In your relationship,
you need the Spirit’s guiding direction more than ever, especially as you move
toward marriage. Prioritize the gospel in your life and relationship, inviting
God to guide you to the right decision.
15. When you hate dating, don’t give up. It will all be worth it when you find the right person, the one whom God has prepared for you. Chin up, dear one. You deserve to be loved and happy. Hold on thy way.
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